Wedding Withdraw

Within these past five weeks, we have attended three very different festivities celebrating three very different couples as they each tied the knot.

How practically perfect that Stasha declared this week in the Land O'Listicle as the week dedicated to any or all things wedding! 

I will admit, it's been nearly seven years since our wedding, and I still stare blissfully at a few framed photos reminicising about that day. That day, we scrimped, saved, and thoroughly enjoyed!

Taking that as inspiration, in chronological order, may I present: 

My ten most favorite wedding memories. 

1. Aunt Celine & Uncle Jimmy

Do you see me? 

I know that grey tuxedo is a hoot, but I'm there. 

That's me: the flower girl. 

I was completely and utterly enamored with all things wedding when my Aunt Celine asked me to be her flower girl. My dress was lovely. I wore a wreath of flowers around my head, and carried more flowers in my basket. I got to walk with my cousin, Christopher, and I remember thinking that I was so grown up because I was in the wedding. I also remember thinking Aunt Celine was so cool to wear a hat instead of a veil.

2. Aunt Patty & Uncle Dave

I don't have a photo of this one, as they were married when I was in high school. My Aunt Patty is my godmother, and my mom's younger sister. 

Growing up, I often pleaded, "Will you make me your flower girl when you get married?
  Her reply, "By the time I get married Jac, you can be my maid of honor!" 

Lo and behold, when it was time for Aunt Patty to tie the knot, I stood next to her as her maid of honor.

3. Ashley & Chris

Ashley has been my best friend since ninth grade, so her wedding was one of those monumental moments in life, that time where your life is in transition. No longer a college kid, but now an adult. Adulthood dreams displacing those of youth. Husband, house, and kids to come. 

Ashley's father had passed away during college after a valiant fight with cancer. It was not soon after his passing that butterflies often would flutter by, serving as a sign that wherever he was, he was watching. In tribute to her father, after their ceremony, we gathered in the courtyard outside the church. After a short reading, dozens of butterflies were released in his honor. 

4. Steve & Lynsay

This was the first wedding Bryan & I attended after our own wedding, and honestly it was the most relaxed I think I have ever felt. The stress from our own day had long since passed, and being a good two years before having children of our own, we were able to eat, drink, and be merry.  

Plus any day Bry's in a tuxedo is a good day for me!

5. Taryn & Dave

My cousin Taryn decided to have a rather low keyed wedding and reception. Being the oldest of seven, family has always been very important to her, and thus my entire family was invited to the festivities. This included my future sister in law at the time Colleen, and a fourteen month old Moira. We enjoyed celebrating all together and unknown to most of the guests, I had surprise of my own during this time. Maeve was born seven months later!

My mom, Mo, me, my sister Jeanna, & my now sis in law Colleen 

6.  Aly & Rob

If you have children, do you remember the first time you left them overnight? 

Aly & Rob's special day was that first time for us! 

Mo was fifteen months old, and after spending close to twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week with her, I was more than ready for some freedom. Aly & Rob's wedding became that solace for me, and Bry too. We partied it up with some of my closest work friends, and spent the night sleeping soundly in a hotel. Waking past nine the next morning was just as heavenly as the cocktail hour where I gorged myself on appetizers the night before. 

7. Colleen & Joey

My baby brother's wedding was everything I had hoped for him, and nothing I had ever imagined. I wrote of my own frustrations over being a grown up in this piece, but there were two key moments that still resonant with me two years later. 

My brother coaxing Mo, a two year old flower girl down the aisle with the promise of a lollipop. 

And then the second memory, his best friend calling from overseas. Mikey is Joey's best friend and in turn the only natural selection to be his best man. Unfortunately, active Naval duty took precedent over his friend's wedding, and Mikey shipped off before that September day. Colleen worked her magic and with the assistance of her cell phone and the DJ, was able to get Mikey to call during the reception. A surprise to not only my brother, but Mikey's parents who were in attendance and all those others who love and miss Mikey. 

Plenty of tears were shared over this memorable moment. 

8. Jeanna & Ian

Not less than four weeks ago, my little sister got married. 

Ever the tomboy, she is more comfortable in sweats and a ponytail. Imagine our combined surprise when she chose this number as her wedding gown.

It's fitted! 

It's strapless! 

And, man, her boobs & ass looked fabulous in it!

Yes, I was maid of honor for my aunt. By as a self absorbed teen, I had no clue all that went into this role. Between the bachleorette, the shower, Flower girl day, numerous phone calls, texts, and emails, I won't lie, it was exhausting! However that day, standing immediately at my sister's side, watching her smile the biggest smile I have ever seen, I wouldn't trade it at all. 

It was worth it!

The Flower girls & the Bride

Of course the lover of all things sweet would have a personalized cake topper!

Okay, so there are only eight. Since I am the author here, I'm taking the last two spots for myself. Number 9 & 10 I'm dedicated to our own wedding. 

My two most favorite memories from our day. 

9. Instead of renting a limo, we rented a trolley for our mode of transportation. Pulling up to the church, I watched my aunt, uncle, and grandmother zip into the parking lot and later a car full of friends who took a half day from teaching made it just in time for the ceremony. As I took one last moment to compose myself,  I saw a grandfather pulling his little granddaughter in a wagon pass the church. She could not have been more then four years old. Looking up to me coming down the stairs, she oohed and aahed as he continuing pulling her up the path. I smiled and waved. As they walked away, I made it to solid ground. It was then I overheard her saying, "Grandpa, I saw the bride! I saw the bride! Doesn't she look so pretty?" 

In that moment I lost any feelings of tears or anxiety and just smiled. 

That smile, that moment set the tone for the entire ceremony and the rest of the day. 

10. Our entire reception. Open bar, fabulous foods, great dance music, and the best group of people period. To this day, we still say we need to save up our pennies to have another party like that one! 

Linking up with the fabulous Stasha and her Monday Listicle

The Chaos Before the Calm

Where are the ruffled socks?

Do I have the personalized hair bows? 

I cannot forget my engagement ring, or make up. That would be bad. 

Do I have the bag of snacks? drinks? bribes? 

Where's my speech? Is it good enough? Will they laugh? cry? GULP...stay silent?

It's here, the day before my sister gets married. 

Her rehearsal dinner is but a few hours away. The planning, the chaos, and the tears have been shared. The final fitting of the dress over, as I learned how to tighten the corset and bustle the train. We're all ready. 

It's time for the fun stuff now, the stuff that makes the memories.  

It's time for little girls in their dresses and party shoes. 

It's time for the vows and the rings.

It's time for the wow as she walks in, 

the shared smile as they see each other for the first time, 

and the kiss to seal the deal. 

It's time to reminisce with the extended family we don't see nearly enough. 

It's time to share a drink or two or three with the friends we've known since childhood. 

All too happen the everyday gets in the way. Work, schedule, routine, and conflicts make their voices known, preventing us from that promised dinner out or visit. Everyday life happens and it's so easy to get swept up in the montony. However on days like this, it gives us all a reason to pause, to make an effort to enjoy the moment. 

It's time to celebrate! 

The bride to be and one of her flower girls mid tickle!

It's #GoodThingsThursday at the Little White Whale. 

What's 'gooder' than a wedding? 

Girl Party

Once upon a time, a fire fighter asked a pediatrician to get married. 

She said yes and immediately began planning for the wedding of their dreams. 

 Having two lovely and adorable nieces, they were asked to be flower girls.

 As equally lovely and adorable was this woman's older sister, whom was asked to be matron of honor. 

Taking her duties, quite seriously, the matron of honor threw herself into planning a bachelorette party and bridal shower worthy of the bride to be's high standards

Nothing was too good for her little sister.

In turn, an evening in Philadelphia was decided upon. 

The evening included good friends, plenty of drinks, fabulous dinner, bowling, and one torrential downpour.

The very following Sunday, these lovely ladies as others gathered  to honor the bride to be with a 

"Love is Sweet"  bridal shower. 

While the bachelorette and shower were a success, Mo the flower girl was upset. Crying to her mother, she couldn't understand why she was not included in the bachelorette festivities? She enjoys going out to dinner and bowling was a favorite past time. 

"Why, oh why can't I come out with you Mommy?" she asks. 

Explaining that these events were for adults only Mo is left sad and deflated. 

"But I promise I'll be good!" she pleads. 

"I'm sorry Mo, it's for grown ups only". 

In response, the bride to be declares to the lovely little ladies: 

"How about we have a Flower Girl Day? It'll be a day just for the flower girls! We'll have lots of fun, just us girls. What do you think?"

A smile overtakes her face, as the talk of Flower Girl Day pushes the bachelorette party out of her mind. 

Flower Girl Day:

A day for two flower girls to celebrate with the bride to be (and their mommy and uncle). 

Two weeks before the wedding, Flower Girl Day is underway. 

It begins with presents for the two special girls:

Balloons 

& Books!

The Very Fairy Princess: Here Comes the Flower Girl

One Love

Then, like the ladies did a few weeks before, they make their way to the bowling alley.

Hugs are exchanged as the game finishes, as we prepare to head to lunch. 

Moving the festivities to the Pop Shop, we celebrate with fried pickles, french fries, pancakes, vanilla milkshakes, chocolate milk, and cherry cokes!

Finally returning home we share red velvet and yellow cupcakes as our Flower Girl day celebration is over. A most memorable day indeed for all those involved.  

Having a wedding? 

Do you have a flower girl or two? 

It's easy for them to get lost in the shuffle of planning the big day. I suggest you take a few hours and relish being a kid and have a Flower Girl day of your own!

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Little White Whale and her Good Thing Thursday meme
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